By KERY MURAKAMI AND HECTOR CASTRO
Marc “Animal” McYoung calls it Escalado; Rory Miller calls it The Monkey Dance. It is real and here is a real example of the Escalado / Monkey Dance.
- 60-year-old man, James Paroline, petitioned the city to put in traffic circle at high accident intersection.
- Paroline tends flowers in traffic circle and puts safety cones by his garden hose to keep people from driving over the hose – effectively blocking that side of the intersection.
- Three girls roll up; demand he move the cones, Paroline refuses.
- Name calling.
- Girls attempt to move cones.
- He shoots them with water from garden hose.
- Shoving ensues.
- Girls call Brian Keith Brown, a 28-year-old, two-time convicted felon.
- Brown drives to the scene, confronts Paroline and punches him in the face. Paroline hits head on pavement and dies in the hospital.
At any point between the numbers 3 to 9, this incident could have been avoided. Somebody could have broken up the dance, but – they – just - could – not - do - it.
Paroline is dead, Brown is charged with 2nd degree Murder (In the United States that is “Non pre-meditated killing.”), he surely is going to prison ( as he is a twice-convicted felon), and the young women who fanned the flames, well, they go home, and sleep in their own beds with no comprehension of what transpired.
Here is a little exercise. Take a look at those events in 3 through 9 and at each moment think how could you have defused it. Does that mean swallowing pride, maybe, will it be seen as weakness by the other, sure. If you give a little room with the other person in the dance, will you need to take more, yup. Will names be cast, count on it. Bottom line, somebody needs to be the adult.